I’ve noticed a disturbing trend lately during my weekend mentoring sessions – many of my first-time mentoring interactions are heading towards requests for instant answers. 🚨

I’ve had people share their challenges and ask for a solution immediately. When I, as a mentor, ask a few follow-up questions, the usual response is:
“Vignesh, can you just tell me what I should do?”

This wasn’t how it used to be a few years ago. ⏳

We used to have deep conversations where the mentee was willing to self-reflect, analyze their current situation, and work out their recommendations.

Mentoring is about guiding, not giving the answers outright. That’s the beauty of mentoring. 🌱

When a mentee completes a 5 or 10-session cycle, they should feel transformed and confident that they found their way out of the tough situation. πŸ›€οΈ They shouldn’t feel like they depended on the mentor or that the mentor made decisions for them.

But here’s the big question:
Why are we so obsessed with instant results? πŸ€”
Why are we losing the patience to embrace the grind necessary for real success?

In today’s fast-paced world – 10-minute door deliveries πŸ›΅, 5-minute cab wait times πŸš–, and instant responses from AI tools πŸ€– – we’ve outsourced the so-called β€œgrind” in almost every task.

The result? A significant drop in our patience levels.

The truth is, important decisions in life – whether professional (career change, job search, upskilling, starting a company) or personal (relationships, family, networking, financial planning) – require us to go through the grind. πŸ› οΈ

There are no shortcuts to success❗
But hey, if you know of one, please share it with me πŸ™‚.